Ok, I have been complaining about how busy I’ve been in several posts lately and I promise this is the last one.  I’m busy, tired and stressed.  I’m trying to be Super Woman and it’s just not possible ever and especially this time of year.  If there any kids reading this (I don’t know why you are, but whatever - thanks!) ENJOY THE HOLIDAYS NOW BECAUSE THEY BECOME WORK FAR TOO QUICKLY.

Family, parties I don’t want to go to, shopping, cooking, baking, wrapping and trying to maintain the outward appearance that it’s all fun is NOT as easy as my mom made it look.  Maybe if we have kids it will become fun again.  Or worse.

Let’s face it - women take the lead on holidays.  In general, there are things we NEED to get done for the holidays that just aren’t all the important to men.  For example, men would be just as happy with a package of Oreos and some Chips Ahoy, but us ladies think we need to make at least 6 different types cookies.  Over the years, I have explained why it’s important to strive so fervently for holiday perfection.  Women like to make everyone happy and want everyone to have special memories about the holidays.  It’s a thing.

Mr. Diva has gotten really good about 1) keeping me sane and 2) helping where we can.  Guys, we’re going to get crazy and you need to temper your want to solve problems with your desire to strangle us.  Do what you can, whether it’s a morning email saying you’ll pick up dinner on the way home or grabbing the present list and giving up a lunch hour or two to get a couple last minute purchases knocked out.

Ladies, you need to realize that your Rockwell holiday ain’t happening.  You’re more likely to have a “A Christmas Story” Christmas - complete with the dogs running off with the turkey.  It’s not going to be perfect, so let your husband help.  Don’t take that as a time to delegate and tell them how to do something better, just tell him what needs to be done and if it’s not right, so what?  Everyone will still have a present to open, food to eat and good times to remember.