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Be a Rock!
There’s something that all us married folk can do better for one another and that’s be a rock for the other person. Sometimes life gets in the way of love and marriage but it’s important to remember that we need to be there for our spouse. And on the flip side, we have to let our spouses be there for us. No one is an island; no one can do it on their own. Everyone needs someone. If you can’t give or accept the help at home, then where are you going to get it?
If we let the day to day problems and strife get to you it starts trickling into all aspects of our lives - work, play, home. Pretty soon everything starts sucking. We get swept up in our issues, we start to ignore our spouses. Open your eyes - see what your spouse needs and verbalize what you need.
Here are a couple tips on being a good rock:
- Ask questions other than “How was your day?” Be specific.
- Make the time: Sit down with no interruptions to really listen and talk. Don’t talk that while your cooking, doing laundry, catching up on the sport page or whatever else you think is mindless. Really listen to what’s going on.
- Gentle prodding. Send an email or give a card letting them know you care about what’s going on.
Here are some tips on letting someone else be a good rock:
- Don’t say nothing when there’s something wrong.
- Ask for their time to talk.
- Let them help if they can.
Someday you may be the one left on this earth to go things alone. There’s time enough for dealing with problems alone. Embrace your marriage!
In general, I really loved this post! In particular, I think it is important that we be open and obvious when we really do have something on our minds and want focused attention.
I know my wife and I can get frustrated at each other at times because of the ole “How am I supposed to know?, You should just know!” routine. Our spouses are not mind readers regardless of how much we would value that skill!
Dustin
EngagedMarriage.com