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Spouse vs. Parents
Mr. Diva and I have the distinct pleasure of having my dad stay with us while he’s in town for a couple days. No, I’m not being sarcastic. He’s pretty easy to be around and since my mom passed away no so long ago, it’s nicer than usual. Mom could be the difficult one. Loved her dearly and miss her everyday, but she was a tough one from time to time. Luckily she LOVED my husband. And on the flipside, I love my mother-in- law. She’s easy to please and never critical. So we’re lucky. Plus we live 2.5 and 3.5 hours away from them. Added bonus. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and the fights much fewer.
Parents can cause major issues with a marriage. It’s so difficult as a young couple to separate yourself from the people who raised you. They took care of you and were your everything for so many years. Then someone comes into your life that relieves them of some of those duties. It’s hard for everyone to get used to.
We both had a conversation before we were married that we needed to be there for each other above everything else but that wasn’t always easy. It’s one of those marital nuances that takes time and patients on the part of all parties involved.
How do you deal with parental issues in your marriage?
O My heather,
You are so lucky i have been with my husband 5yrs married for 2yrs,loved and adored by my husband His mother not so much.I have done everything to please this woman from day one she has put a wedge between me and my husband,anything that happens in life is somehow my fault she has called and left messages just beacuse she can is how she starts the message calling me every name in the book i Fell as though she is Bi polar or something but it puts such a load on our marriage i feel he should stick up for me witch he does but when is enough enough?when is it time to just cut ties?Im scared to ask him to do something of that nature and then me feel guilty when she dies and he blames me!He knows i havent done anything to make her hate me i have been at her beg and call whenever she asked,for example she called me and was yelling at me because her son my husband didnt attend church he had worked a double at work and didnt want to wake the next morning she called me satan and said i was holding her son back i did not respond in a bad way just listend as usaual and at the end of the convo she called me a bitch and hung up!later that day she had fallen while shopping hurt her leg and was on bed rest!without being asked i was at her bed side cleaning,cooking and making sure she was ok still without an apology she acted as if i was a saint 2 weeks later back in the same mode i am feed up and cant hold my tounge much longer my father-in-law is awsome but as you said he lives across the country and no drama!Does neone have a suggestion to what i should do?