Comments on: Say What’s On Your Mind http://marriagediva.com/2009/03/30/say-whats-on-your-mind/ Modern Marriage Musings brought to you by a Modern Married Woman Wed, 08 Sep 2010 14:41:02 +0000 hourly 1 By: James Fargo http://marriagediva.com/2009/03/30/say-whats-on-your-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-1859 James Fargo Thu, 16 Apr 2009 09:27:27 +0000 http://marriagediva.com/?p=483#comment-1859 Good addition Su Prieta. Timing is another thing, even when you are not being emotional about and approach with the intentions of the authors post if you do this when they come home from a bad day at work and you know it ... DON'T DO IT! Likewise if you are really enjoying a moment don't think that is the best time either it may just spoil the mood and get them angry! Good addition Su Prieta.

Timing is another thing, even when you are not being emotional about and approach with the intentions of the authors post if you do this when they come home from a bad day at work and you know it … DON’T DO IT!

Likewise if you are really enjoying a moment don’t think that is the best time either it may just spoil the mood and get them angry!

]]> By: Heather http://marriagediva.com/2009/03/30/say-whats-on-your-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-1416 Heather Tue, 31 Mar 2009 22:58:57 +0000 http://marriagediva.com/?p=483#comment-1416 Excellent reminder! Just like being at work, you need to temper your requests with some thought behind the words. Excellent reminder! Just like being at work, you need to temper your requests with some thought behind the words.

]]> By: Su Prieta http://marriagediva.com/2009/03/30/say-whats-on-your-mind/comment-page-1/#comment-1412 Su Prieta Tue, 31 Mar 2009 16:02:46 +0000 http://marriagediva.com/?p=483#comment-1412 Great reminder of how we should all work at communication. The only thing I would add is that when you are telling your spouse that something bugs you, try to do it in as non-emotional a way as possible. An emotional response comes off as angry, whiny or aloof and doesn't invite a positive reception. If we want our spouses to listen and take action, then we should try not to come at them with very emotional messages. Great reminder of how we should all work at communication.

The only thing I would add is that when you are telling your spouse that something bugs you, try to do it in as non-emotional a way as possible. An emotional response comes off as angry, whiny or aloof and doesn’t invite a positive reception.

If we want our spouses to listen and take action, then we should try not to come at them with very emotional messages.

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