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Is Facebook a Fidelity Tester?

Posted by Heather on March 8th, 2009

I have had so many people in the last couple months ask me if I’m on Facebook.  The answer is no.  It’s not because I’m scared of technology; I just honestly don’t want to get in touch with people.  If I have your email and phone number, that’s enough.  I really don’t need my best friend from high school poking me.  I very much doubt we have much in common.  Plus I can stalk people from my past and if I deem them worthy troubling myself with, I’ll find a way to get in touch with them.

So it’s very doubtful I’ll be on Facebook anytime soon.  But I’ve had three different people tell me how they’ve met up or talked with exes on Facebook.  All these encounters were innocent or the individuals involved were single, so no good gossip for me to relish but I don’t think it always goes down that way.  I think that Facebook can open bored, lonely and unsatisfied couples to escape to a simpler time and more.  Who doesn’t think about how easy things were in high school or college?  Seriously - you didn’t have a care in the world and surrounding yourself with people from that time lets you forget about debt, work or family problems.

If you think I’m being overly protective of the bounds of marriage, let me know but I’ll leave you with a Dr. Philism - It’s cheating if you’re engaging in activity you wouldn’t do in front of your spouse, so reminiscencing about intimate details of a midnight romp in the back of an Escort with an ex might not be the appropriate conversation to be reliving.

What do you think?  Is it OK for a married person to meet up or talk with exes on social networking sites or could the lines of appropriate communication be too easily crossed?

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Facebook, blogging, yahoo answers, are all choice some make to fill their desire to be entertained. A good side to these expressions, I think are places to express creativity. But I think your question is excellent, it is a place where good boundaries are needed. I know I would not like very much if my mate was talking to an old flame undercover.

I actually really love Facebook for the fact that I can network and meet other women entrepreneurs AND I’ve been able to reconnect with friends from middle school. We’re now planning an 8th grade reunion! I signed my husband up on Facebook too and has enjoyed connecting with old friends: sharing family photos and good memories.

It’s how you choose to use Facebook that is the problem for some. Some people are using it to secretly reconnect with exes and that’s just not okay. Leave it in the past.

If your relationship can’t with stand even joining facebook…you need to call a marriage counselor NOW! You are already in the deep end without your PFD.

I think if the temptation for infidelity is there, you’re going to seek it out somewhere, whether or facebook, through IM’s, or at the bar down the street. Sure the internet makes it easier, but a strong relationship will prevail even when temptation surfaces.

I think if you have the desire, you’re going to seek it out somewhere, whether on facebook, through IM’s, or at the bar down the street. Sure the internet makes it easier to find people from your past, but a strong relationship will prevail even when temptation surfaces. I keep in contact with two of my exes, but there is a reason they are exes and that never leaves my mind when I do talk to them.

I think that’s a little harsh Gayle. (And what is PFD??) Some people believe in avoiding situations that could possibly be, or give the appearance of being inappropriate.

Facebook and Myspace are relationship killers. People get bored and start thinking things they have no business thinking and that leads to doing things you have no business doing.

I am on Facebook, so is my husband but we were on it before it became all popular and before we were married. We aren’t newbies all excited who go on their looking for their exes to “catch up” which I believe is totally unnecessary behavior.

Leave the past in the past!

I’m not saying that Facebook and other social networking sites are evil but they have caused marriages to breakup and worse, make it easier for pervs to prey on innocent children.
I understand the curiosity about old friends, but old lovers? Really now? As a grown, married woman I don’t need to be nosing around in dangerous territory with old flames.
It’s how you use it and your motives. I’m just saying you need to think about why you need to go back to the past and work on the present.

Like everything in life, it is up to us to exercise self-control and keep ourselves on track in our marriages.

Personally, I am on facebook and myspace and I have a Twitter account. I’ve actually considered canceling the facebook and myspace account, except it will come in handy when my business is up and running.

I think people can go looking for things and find it but it can happen anywhere, online or not.

P.s. I don’t keep in contact with my exes because they are exes for a reason. My husband doesn’t keep in touch with is either. It is a very spoken rule and we have defined the rules with facebook and myspace.

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