Oooh, I knew that title would get you.  Ok, so last Saturday night my husband and I were minding our own business watching some tv around midnight or so in front of the most glorious roaring fire ever when we hear our downstairs neighbors slamming doors and screaming at the top of their lungs. Now, we weren’t about to listen in on the argument, but we did listen just enough to make it wasn’t getting physical.  This fight went on and off for hours - we were still hearing yelling around 2 am.  Not cool.  I miss home ownership and can’t wait to find our next house in our still-new city.  I keep saying - renting is not forever. I digress…

Cut to Sunday. The yelling and caterwallling was no replaced with the normal irritating giggling.  What a difference 8 hours made.  The night before you would have thought their world was crumbling and suddenly everything perfect.

Mr. Diva and I were most unsettled at the argument.  We don’t fight like that.  If we can sit down and have a normal, rational discussion nothing is going to get solved.  In my opinion that kind of screaming is only going to result in a sore throat.  Arguing is fine, but you need think before you speak.  Don’t say words that the only make you cringe when you think about them in the future.  I’m not saying you should hide your feelings but telling someone you don’t care if they live or die, stay or go - the ghosts of those words will stay.  Heck, I think some couple LIKE to yell, but yelling and spouting hurt words are totally different.

What kind of arguer are you?  Do you scream and raise the dead?  Do you take time to go to your corners to cool off before having a discussion?  Or are you like me, do you dislike yelling so much it’s not even part of the equation?