Religion and politics. Have you heard that old saying? Well, it doesn’t go for marriage. You NEED to talk about them. Today I’ll tackle religion but politics is coming soon, so stay tuned!

I was raised quasi-religious while my husband comes from a Catholic background. He went to a Catholic school, went to church every Sunday, the whole nine. I, on the other hand, went to church with my family for a while but my mother always found a reason to stop going. Fundamentally, Mr. Diva and I are on the same page when it comes to religion, although we have our differences. We should go back to church, but neither of us have been overly enthusiastic about finding a new place of worship in our new city.

Personally for me, it was very important to marry someone who believed in the same afterlife. My husband and I happen have a rather unique view on the afterlife and we agree on that. In my mind, we’re headed for the same place.

I think prior to marriage knowing how your spouse feels about religion is very important. Some marriages work fine with even with extreme belief differences but it’s not a discuss to wait to have after you’re married. You can’t spend 50 years rolling your eyes at your spouse when she prays before a meal or being mortified when your spouse brings up how he just graduated to a new OT level at his church of Scientology.

Don’t just agree to disagree either if you have even an inkling that your spouse might come around to your point of view. If you marry an atheist, don’t expect him or her to come to church with you just to “see what it’s all about”. It’s not your place to “save” your spouse. Yoou still need to treat your spouses religious proclivities with a certain amount of reverence. You married the person for a reason and condemning or poking fun at them isn’t one of them.

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