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How Young Is Too Young To Get Married?

Posted by Heather on September 6th, 2008

The other day, a friend of mind was telling me about one of her male coworkers who is attending a bachelor party this weekend. He then told her the groom is 21 and the couple seems most excited about the mini cupcakes and chocolate fondue fountain they are serving at their reception. It was pretty much unanimous in her office that 21 is too young to get married.

She was 26 when she married her husband, and I was 25 when Mr. Diva and I tied the knot. Perhaps we were too young too? I did a little survey at work and I found that everyone in my general area was over 30 when they married their spouses.

I agree 21 seems a little young for most, but I think life experience could change that. Those serving in the military might be a much older 21 than I was at 25, for example. At the same time, a couple of 21 year old, freshly graduated pair of love birds who met while doing tequila shooters and upside margaritas during their last semester at college seem far, FAR too young to be marching down to the local courthouse to get a marriage license.

I don’t know, love is love, but reality it reality too. I think sound marriage advice to any young couple is to make sure you can take care of yourself before you get into a marriage. Don’t be in a rush to go from your dorm room, barracks or parents home just to set up house with your true love. Marriage is forever and if you do it too young or too soon it will literally feel like F-O-R-E-V-E-R.

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I think I’m a little weird because I don’t think 21 is too young. I got married at 23, and my husband was 21. It’s been seven years, and we haven’t dealt with any serious problems or regrets. Now that I think about it, the majority of my close friends got married between 21 and 23….I thought it was the norm. Nowadays, it seems like more and more people are waiting until they get closer to 30.

I feel that it depends on the situation. I know some people who are 20 and have a good marriage and I know some who married at 30 and have a not so good marriage. I guess it depends on the maturity level. I married at 22 but I was not the average 22 year old…neither me nor my husband partied or drank or did anything that normal people our age did…we had been wild before but we calmed down and matured way before we even met each other. So to me, it depends on the maturity level and sometimes your lifestyle…all in all, if you are over the age of 18, it is your choice whether you marry or not…live your own life and deal with the consequences whether good or bad…if it was a mistake, at least you would know rather than not have tried. but don’t be a fool…I suggest not marrying if you know that the person if not for you…or if you see any bad signs before marrying, you may want to think twice before walking down the aisle.



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