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I Don’t Love Him, I Just Married Him
I recently met someone who admitted to me that she wasn’t in love with her husband, even when she married him. She loved him and really liked his company and his friendship, but she was head over heels in love. I’m pretty sure he knew that too. She said she wasn’t looking for romance; the relationship was mutually beneficial. I guess you could call it a marriage of convenience.
Why not just live together and if it turns into a common law marriage, so be it?
Do people like this get married to fit in with others? To make their family and friends happy? To gain tax breaks?
Honestly, I think people should get married for their own reasons, but I feel bad that people settle for less than fireworks, romance, friendship, stability and most importantly love. I would hope that everyone who has a wedding days feels the same euphoria I did and it’s sad that not everyone gets that chance.
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I’ve learned (by experience & observation) that yes, there are all types of marriages/relationships - just like everything else. I think we often make assumptions about the word marriage & what that means for different people. I totally agree with you about wanting the fireworks in my marriage. I feel like anything less than that is sort of settling & you don’t feel as alive. However, sometimes I think if my husband & I were less passionate about things we may get more things accomplished! I think the relationships that we are more passionate about help to provide more opportunities for growth & therefore don’t consist of the same comfort levels or safety that possibly more “convienent” marriages do. Pros/Cons to everything…..