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Is the Seven Year Itch Real?
Here’s a little tale about my sometimes bizarre train of thought. I was working in the garden and noticed the yarrow (AKA Achillea) that I tore out last year because it gives me a terrible rash is coming back. It brushed against my leg and and knew I was in for an itchy evening.
Then I thought about poison ivy. Which made me think about Drew Barrymore because she was in a horrible movie of the same in which she had giant hair. Then because I was getting itchy and thinking about movie stars, I thought about the move The Seven Year Itch. Which made me realize that my husband and I are getting ready to enter our seventh year of marriage.
See - I can go from an stupid plant to marriage in about 3.5 seconds.
I did a little research and found that studies show there are two periods of marriage decline. The first around year 4 of marriage. Researcher found this is when the honeymoon period seems to end. The second decline is around the 8th year. Some researchers attribute the first to normal marriage growing pains and the second is related to the birth of children. Since my husband and I don’t have children yet, perhaps that we’re safe. Other researchers say the seven year itch is due to disagreements coming to a head around year 7 or 8.
For me, the seven year itch is not an issue. As the years go on, I find it easier to fight and disagree. I know his style better and he knows mine. Fights are shorter and have amicable outcomes. And sex? That’s way easier too! It’s easier to be open and talk about what we like and don’t like. I do know that you have to be a little more adventurous to keep the excitement alive, but keeping the romance and tenderness going too. There’s a time for crazy circus sex and a time for tender love making. Knowing what should happen when gets easier as we learn each other queues.
I think the key to keeping the itch away is to keep learning about each other. It doesn’t heart to have dessert in the bedroom once in a while too? 
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Interesting…my wife and I just reached our 6th anniversary and our first decline began just a few months ago.