Before I even start this post I have a warning for anyone out there that hasn’t seen the Sex and the City movie, is planning on seeing it and doesn’t want a single moment spoiled. DO NOT READ THIS POST FURTHER UNTIL YOU HAVE SEEN THE MOVIE. Consider yourself warned.

SPOILER ALERT!!!Ok, so Steve cheated on Miranda. Say what, come again? Yes, Steve, the one character on the show that was sweet to a fault did the unthinkable. His excuse was that Miranda was starving him for a little sexual attention. Granted, Miranda did tell him during sex to “get it over with”. Understandably, that didn’t go over too well. But is that an excuse to go out and cheat? No way Jose!

In the end after a soul searching, therapy and one very sad New Years Eve, they made up and started anew. My girlfriends and I discussed it, agreeing that once is one time too many. I just don’t have it in me to forgive and move on if that happened. That actually makes me feel weak, but I feel how I feel. And if it was this colossal mistake that only happened once like Steve bemoaned to his beloved Miranda, it should have been his cross to bear for the rest of his life. He didn’t need to ruin two lives because of his mistake. As my friend said “He should have spent the rest of his life striving to be the husband his wife thought she had.”

Is cheating the unforgivable sin? I think spouses can forgive the action but they cannot forget the lapse that caused the action. It breaks the marriage. Think of marriage as a gravy boat, cheating like the broken handle and trust as the gravy (work with me here people). You can patch up the handle and it looks the same from the outside, but you can never really put as much gravy in it as you did before. And when you to use the gravy boat at a dinner party, you spend all evening hoping it holds.

What do you all think? Could you get over it if you spouse cheated? Is one time ok, but an ongoing affair wrong?

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