My parents celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary over the weekend. Randy and I headed over on Saturday to spend the day with them - I arranged some flowers for them (because I’m all Martha like that), got them a cake from a local place sent directly from heaven, and took them to dinner. I’m know my parents have been through some extremely trying times but they are still together. Jokingly, they said that there were a lot of people who probably lost money on them because no one thought they’d stay together for 4 years let alone 40. But here they are, still standing and in love. Trying times or not, they worked through whatever their issues were/are and did it together.

On the way home, Randy and I talked about what kills marriages. Besides big giant things like major lies and infidelity, we decided that indifference was one of the biggest reasons. Over at Marriage Actually today, there’s a post about a recent marriage study saying there’s not a stigma attached to divorce anymore; but rather it’s an “unavoidable right of passage”. Really? Do people wake up one day after the romance and excitement is over and decide it’s time to move on? Is it really ok to say “I just don’t feel like being married anymore”. I am by no means saying that people should stay in a loveless or hurtful marriage, but to just decide you don’t want to be married anymore doesn’t seem in line with what marriage is all about. I think divorce has it’s time and place, but it should be a last resort, not a get out of jail free card.

What do you think?