http://marriagediva.com/2008/02/26/and-in-this-corner/ Modern Marriage Musings brought to you by a Modern Married Woman Thu, 29 Jul 2010 14:41:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://marriagediva.com/2008/02/26/and-in-this-corner/comment-page-1/#comment-656 ana Sun, 09 Nov 2008 06:10:49 +0000 http://marriagediva.com/2008/02/26/and-in-this-corner/#comment-656 My husband and I did in fact have very different "fighting" styles early in our dating relationship. I would keep shutup while boiling inside, not really being able to listen to what he was saying and then suddenly just burst out something really hurtful and leaved the room. But he taught me to communicate, he would hold my hand and be supportive while I tried to put into words what I was feeling, something new for me. We came up with 3 rules that have proven golden during our relationship and marriage: 1. Always tell each other everything and never lie, even if you think it may hurt the other person. 2. Never part or stop communicating until a discussion is really over and we are both happy again. (the hardest for me!) 3. When discussing always keep normal voice tones and never use certain words: bad names, "always", "never", etc. (sometimes you can get angry by the way the other person is talking, rather than by what he is actually saying...) My husband and I did in fact have very different “fighting” styles early in our dating relationship. I would keep shutup while boiling inside, not really being able to listen to what he was saying and then suddenly just burst out something really hurtful and leaved the room. But he taught me to communicate, he would hold my hand and be supportive while I tried to put into words what I was feeling, something new for me. We came up with 3 rules that have proven golden during our relationship and marriage:
1. Always tell each other everything and never lie, even if you think it may hurt the other person.
2. Never part or stop communicating until a discussion is really over and we are both happy again. (the hardest for me!)
3. When discussing always keep normal voice tones and never use certain words: bad names, “always”, “never”, etc. (sometimes you can get angry by the way the other person is talking, rather than by what he is actually saying…)

]]>