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If You Like Piña Coladas…
Anyone out there know that song? It’s about a guy who’s bored in his relationship, so he looks at the personals in the newspaper (pre-Match.com days) and sees an ad for a woman looking for a guy that likes, among other things piña coladas, getting rained on and “doing it” after midnight. When he goes to meet the woman the stranger turns out to be his “own lovely lady”. Whatever - it’s a really silly song and I never thought in a million years you could be so oblivious to your spouse or significant other that you wouldn’t know their likes and dislikes. Or that you wouldn’t have shared that information with the love of your life. Well, it’s happened but it didn’t end with a rousing refrain of a catchy chorus.
Ananova.com reported a married couple from Bosnia is divorcing after they attempted to be unfaithful to each other, WITH each other. The husband and wife chatted under false names. Both seemed to be stuck in loveless, miserable marriages. Oh the commonality! When they decided to meet outside a shop, each would carry a single rose.
When the wife, Sana, saw her husband with a flower she was “shattered” and “so angry”. Prior to the realization, she thought she was about to meet the” love of her life.” That was a quick change in attitude! Her husband, Adnan, couldn’t believe his online love was “the same woman I married and who has not said a nice word to me for years.”
Not surprisingly, the couple is divorcing, but here’s the kicker - they are each saying the other was unfaithful. I understand, two wrongs do not make a right but can you really cheat on your spouse with your spouse? I think they both deserved to feel hurt and betrayed to an extent, but I think they should both feel really stupid too. Come on! They LIVED together and yet they didn’t know how the other person felt about the state of their marriage? I think a little communication can go a long way. In their case, they might have been able to end the marriage and not live with the worry and guilt over the impending affair. But who knows? Perhaps they could have worked things out too!
What do you think? Should they be able to use infidelity as an excuse in court?
Another question - how am I supposed to get the Piña Colada Song out of my head?
Call me crazy but I think that the fact that they were interested in each other shows that perhaps if they get their heads out their butts and start talking they’d be able to have a happy marriage. Ok, ok I can get the hurt and betrayal but I think at some point they should be able to laugh about the whole thing.