A moment ago I was surfing Google for information on how to protect my personal domain details on Whois. A couple of clicks later and I’m in the middle of a discussion on babies, nappies, motherhood and feelings of guilt!!!

Oh well now that I’m here ….

This seems to be an all-female blog so I don’t know if single men are allowed to comment!

Let me think? What can I say?

Yes ladies. Stop looking for something to feel guilty about. As soon as the cause goes away, you’ll only find something new to feel guilty about. It’s not worth it.

Yes, I agree, stop trying to have it all. It’s a trendy theme peddled by the media. A pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

As for babies: I don’t have any. I suppose they’d be nice to have but - I’ve never had an Aston Martin either. It too would be nice to have but I don’t lose sleep over it.

And finally, don’t put off the baby thing too long. There are a lot of single women further down the line who don’t enhance their dating prospects with that look on their face. The one that gives the impression that men are only useful for one thing!

I’ll better get back to Google.

PS You didn’t come across as sounding angry. Stop feeling so guilty : )

GHD - I like that you can admit “having it all” is a crock. It takes a woman comfortable in her position to do that! My husband and I happy together. I’m having OTHER family struggles at the moment that stirred up a lot of anger (after re-reading my post, WHEW I was angry)!

(army)wife - It’s sad. People think you get married because you HAVE children. That is NOT a reason to get married. You’re young - have fun with your husband!

No wonder you’re stressed and feeling guilty. I think you need to simplify things to the basics: Are you and your husband living a good life? Are you both fulfilled with where you’re at in life?

Well, then, there you go… No one else’s opinions, life/parenting choices, or rudeness should ever matter.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being happy. I took me a while to realize this and even longer to accept it.

I have a Master degree and gave up a brilliant career to be a SAHM. I think that notion “having it all” is total crock made-up for TV drama. It drives women to madness. You should only have all that you can handle.

oh, and that invasive, highly personal, highly uncomfortable, and always inappropriate questioning (probing) by loved ones and complete strangers only gets WORSE when you get pregnant.