When I took a walk this morning I was naked.
Now that I have your attention…I wasn’t literally naked, but I forgot to put my wedding rings on this morning. I seriously feel like I’m walking around without pants when I leave the house without my rings, anyone else out there feel that way too?
That got me thinking about when Randy and I were getting ready to pick out rings 6 years ago. It was important to me that we got matching wedding bands. I know it’s all the rage for a diamond wraps or bands for the bride, I just wanted to have our own special “Wonder Twin” identical bands. As I perused ring after ring, I realized Randy didn’t seem to have an opinion on the matter.
“Um, I need your input on the rings.”
“Well, whatever. White gold, nothing girly. *Random pointing* That ones looks good.”
“You have to wear this everyday too Bud!”
*Blank stare* “I’m not really a jewelry person.”
“Well you better become one soon.”
Did he actually believe that he wouldn’t be wearing a wedding ring EVERYDAY FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE? I get it, he’s not into man jewelry. A wedding ring isn’t a piece of jewelry so much as…an outward symbol of your love. Oh hell, who am I kidding? The wedding band is a sign to everyone other woman out there to keep her grubby mitts off!
But, he knew it was important to me so he said he’d wear the ring everyday, but that he wouldn’t even get used to it. We even took our rings for a test run before the wedding. I remember sitting at Friday’s, eating hamburgers and occasionally glancing at each other’s hands, smiling at the future.
He’s kept that promise, I’ve rarely seen him leave the house without his ring. He even admitted that he feels like he’s missing something when he forgets. Now, he’s not wearing gold chains and other man jewelry, but really, that more than okay with me. Man jewelry kinds of creeps me out.
Anyone else out there have the Wedding Band Debate with their husband?
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yup, I was amazed at how quickly Hubby got used to the ring. He thought he wouldn’t, either.
I think it’s cute when I catch my husband cleaning his ring. But sometimes I think it’s because he like a super sonic jewelry cleaning machine.
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No debate with him. I asked him if he wanted a wedding ring. He looked horrified. I told him I didn’t care whether he wore a ring so long as he was happy being married to me.
The debate I kept having was with other women. I couldn’t believe the number who insisted I had to buy a ring and force it on his finger and shouldn’t even give him any say in what it looked like, let alone whether he chose to wear one!
My beloved doesn’t even wear a watch. He can’t stand wearing jewelry of any sort. He also works a great deal with electricity. Both preference (his) and practicality said don’t bother getting him a ring.
I consider it a matter of respect for the individual. After all, if I’d said I didn’t want a wedding ring I know he would have double checked that I’d said what he thought I’d said, and then said okay. After all, that’s what he did when I pointed out the sterling silver frog ring that I wanted as an engagement ring. He didn’t tell me I had to have a diamond so people would know what it meant or that it was important to him that my ring look a certain way.
Ring or no ring, he knows who he’s married to, and he is demonstrative in public after fourteen years of marriage and more than twenty years together. A ring is a symbol, and I happen to be a lot more into symbolism (well, and jewelry) than he is.
If he’d wanted a ring, I’d have gotten him one. He didn’t. I don’t care about whether he wants to wear an outward symbol, so long as he comes home to me every night and acknowledges me when we’re out in public. He does those things. Would he really be more married with a ring than without? I honestly don’t see how.
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